The wording for the ceremony is spiritual, though not religious, and the duration is approximately 15-minutes.

The Sand Pouring or Unity Candle is available at no extra charge. You will need to supply your own sand, vases, or candle set as these are momentos you'll want to take home with you.

This ceremony can be easily modified to suit a variety of spiritual and religious belief systems, so please feel free to let me know your needs.

If you would like a more "Earth-centered" ceremony, we would add smudging with sage to cleanse the space we are in,  and if you'd like, calling of the directions with rattling and whistling~ also at no extra charge. I love adding this to ceremonies as it creates sacred space allows me to tap into my Native American roots!!

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The Ceremony

I do not perform custom ceremonies. With that said, if you would like to add a song, reading, or verse, there are a couple of places where we can easily plug them in.  Please see the side bar on this page for unique additions. You are also welcome to say your own custom vows if you'd like, with or without the traditional vows.  

As an inter-faith minister, I am happy to accommodate your personal spiritual beliefs. I have married atheists, muslims, jews, pagans, christians, agnostics, and just about any other belief system you can think of!  I make mention of God and Divine Creator in the ceremony but these can easily be taken out (and other wording put in its place if need be). 

For larger weddings, I always recommend a rehearsal the day before or the day of the wedding. 


OPENING (Welcome family and friends!)

Ronald and Mary,  in the eyes of God and each other, we are here today to celebrate one of life’s greatest moments, to give recognition to the worth and beauty of true love, and to cherish the words that will unite you both in marriage.

[Who presents Mary to be married today? (“I do”)]

Ronald and Mary, in the days ahead of you, there will be times of sadness and times of joy. Harmony will be your reward if you follow this advice:

Let your love be stronger than your anger.
Learn the wisdom of compromise, for it is better to bend than to break.
Look for the best in your beloved rather than the worst. 
Confide in your partner and ask for help when you need it. 
Remember that true friendship is the basis for any lasting relationship.
Give your partner the same courtesies and kindnesses you would bestow upon your friends.
And say “I love you” every day.


Let us pray.
Divine creator of all this wonder, we pray that your love
and your joy may flow through us at this time.
Shine your light upon Ronald and Mary, 
So that they may give each other total joy.
Nourish their minds with your wisdom.
Enrich their hearts with your love.
Feed their marriage with your presence.
Give them the courage and inspiration to honor the vows
they make here today.
May they be supported and encouraged in their union,
and be eternally blessed.

(Reading or Song may be inserted here)


Ronald and Mary, please face each other and join hands. 
I remind you that marriage is a precious gift;
a life-long dedication and a daily challenge to 
love one another more fully and more freely.

With this understanding, do you Ronald, take Mary, to be your beloved wife?
Do you promise to be a tender, faithful partner?
Do you promise to love, honor and cherish her,
in sickness and in health, for richer or for poorer, for better or for worse, from this day forward? (“I do”)

With this understanding, do you Mary, take Ronald, to be your beloved husband? 
Do you promise to be a tender, faithful partner?
Do you promise to love, honor and cherish him,
in sickness and in health, for richer or for poorer, for better or for worse, from this day forward? (“I do”)


Ronald and Mary, you have chosen rings as an outward symbol of your commitment to each other. From the earliest times, the ring has been an outward symbol of wedded love. An unbroken and unending circle symbolizes a commitment to love, that is also never ending. We ask that God would bless theses rings, and this union of souls.

Ronald, place the ring you have chosen onto Mary's finger, and say to her these words: This ring, a gift for you / symbolizes my desire /that you be my wife/ from this day forward.

Mary,place the ring you have chosen on Ronald's finger, and say to him these words: This ring, a gift for you / symbolizes my desire /
that you be my husband / from this day forward.

Let these rings serve as locks, binding you together, and also as keys, unlocking the secrets of your love, and thus bringing you closer together.

(Unity Candle or Sand Pouring takes place here)


To be loved is to know joy and happiness.
To love is to know the joy of sharing oneself, and it is through the miracle of that love, that we discover the fullness of life.
May God always be with you, love you,
and guide you both, now and forever.
May the Sun bring you new energy by day.
May the Moon softly restore you by night.
May the Rain wash your worries.
May the Breeze blow new strength into your being.
May you walk gently through the World, and know its
beauty all the days of your life.
And may you live those days in peace, love, and happiness.


Ronald and Mary, having witnessed your vows of marriage 
(with all who are assembled here), and by the authority vested in me, I announce with great joy, that you are now husband and wife. You may seal your vows with a kiss!

PRESENTATION: (Ladies & Gentlemen) it is my honor to present to you for the first time Mr. and Mrs. Ronald Rogers!


These two candles before you are yourselves.

Each of you is a whole and complete human being.

Together, now light the third candle in the center,

but do not extinguish the first two.

For in marriage, you do not lose yourself;

You add something new - a relationship -

the capacity to merge into one another without

losing sight of your individual self.

May the brightness of these flames shine throughout your lives. 

May they give you courage and reassurance in the darkness, warmth and safety in the cold, 

and strong joy in your bodies, minds, and spirits. 

May your union be forever blessed.


Ronald and Mary
you will now seal your relationship through the mixing of the sands. 

Just as two lives join together to become one, so will the
individual sands become one as they are poured.
It would be impossible to separate these sands, just as it
would be impossible to separate your lives after today.

But remember, that in marriage, you do not lose yourself. You add something new; a relationship,
The capacity to merge into one another
without losing sight of your individual self.

This covenant is a relationship pledge between two people who love each other heartily, and who agree that they will commit themselves to one another
throughout their lives.
May your union be forever blessed.


Ronald and Mary, you have chosen each other today,
but you have also chosen a family.
We will now celebrate the unification of
Scott, Deborah, and Malia into this covenant.

Ronald and Mary,
please pour your sand into the vase first, showing that your marriage is the foundation of this family;
A never-ending source of love and support.
Your sand mixes together and symbolizes your bond of love and respect that can never be separated.

Scott, Deborah, and Malia, please add your sand now, and as you do, remember that you are an important part of this union.
And although we are all different people, it is our individuality that adds a unique color to the tapestry of the family.
Like the sands before it, so these sands will also mix
and be unable to be separated. 

(c) Debi Tripp 2004